How open-ended sensory play can strengthen sibling bonds


Louise @inspiremyplay
Part of the @InspireMyPlay team. Sensory play specialist and mum to two boys.
Whatever the age gap, sibling relationships can be complex, especially when it comes to playtime! And whilst they may have us scratching our heads at the emotional rollercoaster siblings can go through daily, it can be helpful to know that they are also laying the groundwork for future relationships.
This is their earliest peer group, and a crucial safe place to learn about communication, body language, social cues, empathy, compassion, conflict resolution and healthy boundaries to name just a few.
Every sibling is different, while one child may enjoy puzzles and books, another might be drawn to active or messy play.
These differences can sometimes lead to challenges in finding shared activities. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard a desperate shout of “muuuum! He’s ruining my lego build!” or “he’s not playing by the rules!!”
However, open-ended sensory play offers a fantastic way for siblings to engage in meaningful, cooperative experiences that help them bond, learn from each other, and enjoy quality time together.

Shared Early Experience
We go into some more depth about the wider benefits of sensory play here.
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Practicing problem-solving skills through parallel play
In our house we have a three-year age gap between siblings, and whilst they share some general interests, their passions are different, and they have vastly different modes of play!

When we had a baby & a pre-schooler, they both enjoyed water-play activities, or a tray filled with rice, scoops, bowls and hidden treasures, each engaging with it at their own level of development. The older sibling would be creating imaginative storylines, or some elaborate project while the younger one delighted in the textures and simple cause-and-effect of scooping & pouring or becoming deeply focussed on picking something up between thumb & finger.
We keep sensory play open-ended and adaptable, we set no rules or expectations of the activity itself, our only expectations are those around containing the mess within the play boundary and respecting each other’s right to share in the fun! Allowing children to freely explore shared materials supports gross and fine motor skills as well as allowing children to observe and mimic others. Additionally, it fosters trust, empathy, and awareness of others' emotions. Sensory play gives us great opportunity to practice these important skills in a safe and fun way and yes, even the adults enjoy it!
Rehearsing social, emotional and cognitive skills through co-operative play.
Most of our sensory activities are carried out using our PlayTRAY and accessories which means they require shared space and materials, and you guessed it – this naturally promotes turn-taking and teamwork. Activities like building a sandcastle, making homemade playdough, or ‘cooking’ together all helps them learn to collaborate, and compromise with others, skills which can be transferred when they are inevitably faced with conflict outside of the home.

Fostering independence and building self-esteem.

Emotional support and security
My favourite way to encourage sensory play these days is to create a simple set up and leave it to be found in a communal place such as the dining table, kitchen floor or garden when they get home from school, or sometimes on the bath rack when I run them a bath. Letting them discover it without introducing it first allows them to make all their own decisions about how to play with it and get really collaborative together.
Emotional regulation

Open-ended sensory play is more than just a fun activity—it’s a bridge that connects siblings despite differences in age or interests. By creating these shared experiences, fostering cooperation, and encouraging mutual learning, this kind of play helps strengthen their bond. With a little creativity and some simple materials, we can nurture a positive sibling relationship at home which provides the foundation model for future friendships outside of their home… and hopefully allow ourselves a bit of time take a breath and enjoy the peaceful moment!